This is the story about my partnership, relationship, and subsequent breakup from my financial advisor.

This post was originally part of my review of the Fire Your Financial Advisor course from The White Coat Investor.  Click here to read my review.  I separated them as I felt they deserved their own post (and it was really long).

Paranoia

I began learning investing from my father at a young age and, I obtained a business degree in undergrad despite going into medicine.  I’m naturally inclined to think about personal and business finances.  So I had a natural desire to take the lead on it when I became married and had a real job.

While I didn’t have a natural idea on how to communicate ideas to my wife, I did generally know the broad strokes of what we should do.

After the birth of our first child, Rogue One, I became paranoid and wanted someone to make sure we were “on the right track.”  Kids.  Change.  Everything.

So I hired a financial advisor.

It was a well-known company — supposedly with more physician clients than any firm in the country.  The founder/owner and his younger brother were going to be my advisers (Sr. Brother and Jr. Brother).  I had even heard about them from someone I trust — my older brother, who had briefly worked with Sr. Brother several years prior.

So what could go wrong?

What Went Sort Of Right

They told us we were doing great — our loan debt was low and we had already maxed our Roth IRAs every year .  Compared to most recent med school grads we were doing phenomenal.  So we got a pat on the back.  The advisor only had two concrete, helpful pieces of advice:

• Obtain a personal, occupation specific, disability insurance policy
• Complete basic estate planning (will, revocable trust, power of attorney, etc).

Completing those was easy — they helped with the insurance, a lawyer friend gave me a discount on obtaining the estate documents.

Jr. Brother convinced me to use their investment management services.  In exchange for paying an assets under management (AUM) fees, they would do all the investing.  With AUM fees, no matter how much is invested and regardless of if the value goes up or down, they take a fixed % of your invested assets.    If you have a tiny portfolio it feels okay

They also gave me access to Dimensional Fund Advisors (DFA) mutual funds/ETFs.  They said DFA funds would give me an edge over the standard Vanguard funds.  That topic is hotly debated in investing circles.

They charged me ~1.5% AUM fee.  For those not familiar with what’s the magnitude of fees — THAT’S A LOT.  Over time an advisory fee that high can eat up large amounts of your portfolio, more than 30% over 30 years, sometimes way more.

I didn’t do the math of how much advisory fees could cost long-term.  The White Coat Investor hadn’t launched.  Physician On Fire wasn’t yet financially independent and writing about it.

But I quickly saw I was paying a lot with very dubious benefit.   The company put almost no effort into the investments.  They just set an allocation and every few months checked in and did a little re-balancing.  They were doing what I was doing — a solid, low-cost, index fund based approach.

They put as little effort into managing the investments as I did, but now I was paying a high fee.

Whenever I asked them to show me they were outperforming Vanguard, they were unable to do so.  I was later told the fee was for the convenience and advice and they would not necessarily help me outperform Vanguard.

The company also provided other services that were theoretically covered by my AUM fee and an initial contract fee.  So I asked tons of questions about refinancing home loans, reviewing my first attending physician contract, etc.

Why We Fired Each Other

They never put effort into helping us define savings or retirement goals or planning after the initial intake assessment.

I kept questioning the value of their investing products.  I kept asking questions that they said were covered by their services.  I also got annoyed when I would ask a question that needed an answer (i.e. within a week) and 2 weeks would go by without acknowledging my question.

My lead advisor, Jr. Brother, said they weren’t able to meet my needs and that I was asking for things not covered by my fees, and even said I had not paid what I was supposed to pay (trust me, I had paid everything we agreed on).  He said we had to narrow our working relationship — he would no longer answer questions, but instead would provide a quarterly meeting to review my investments and nothing else.  For the same massive fee.

I responded back — quite outraged — and accused them of a contract breach.  I couldn’t find my original contract, but I fired them.  A short time after we severed our relationship I found our original contract, which I had lost, and sent it to them.

I requested they partially refunded my fees because of services not delivered, and said if they took that step I would consider the dispute settled and would not pursue a formal complaint, which I had considered.  The amount of money was tiny to them, a lot to me.  They sent me a check.  Because I chose not to file a formal complaint, I am not putting their name in this blog post.

Also to be fair — Sr. Brother was gracious at the end of the process.  It was Jr. Brother where I encountered difficulty.  He has recently left the company, though I do not know why.

Ever since I’ve immersed myself more by reading blogs and the occasional book.  I hate reading investing books, so I mostly read websites and articles online, but there are tons of good books out there.

A good deal of what many advisors pay to do is quite easy, even for a novice.  Managing investments, picking a home loan, etc.  That part is not difficult for most well-educated people.  It’s comprehensive planning, setting realistic goals, and avoiding doing stupid stuff where they earn their fee.

I still constantly ask for advice — I just don’t pay someone most of the time.   I ask on websites and forums and pester people I know who know more than me, and people I don’t know but who are willing to help (like the White Coat Investor himself by email or website).

Do you have a financial advisor breakup story?  Share it below.